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Individual Therapy

Individual Therapy

Online EMDR Therapy

Online EMDR Therapy

Couples Therapy

Couples Therapy

RODBT (Radically Open Dialectical Behavioral Therapy)

RODBT (Radically Open Dialectical Behavioral Therapy)

RODBT Couples Class

RODBT Couples Class

Parenting Skills

Parenting Skills

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Individual Therapy

Life is difficult enough without feeling like you’re in it alone. Everyday stress can take its toll alone, but add in other stressors like anxiety, depression, trauma, or relationship issues, and it can feel unbearable. Individual therapy can help you reflect on truths that have been difficult for you, give you a neutral space to sort out your thoughts or offer you guidance working through things that you haven’t been able to work through on your own.

I’m on My Own

Loneliness is not uncommon in the therapy office. Those who are overstressed are often emotional and struggle to connect with others, though they desperately wish to. Perhaps you aren’t even sure what the problem is. Add to this the fact that it’s so difficult to ask for help, and you have a recipe for disaster. On the other hand, when you’re working so hard to change the path your life is on, and the same issues keep coming up, it may be a signal that you need some objective outside guidance. While it feels that you are alone, this is far from the truth: a good therapist can go a long way in getting you back on track.

Overscheduled and Undervalued

We all lead busy lives. Some of us are busier than others! If your life feels more like a series of scheduled appointments with no downtime than overall experience, it may be time for a change. We are taught to achieve. Very often, high achievers end up “overcontrolled.” This means that, as a person, there is a level of inflexible thinking that leads to increased anxiety, loneliness, perfectionism, being overcautious, and feeling exhausted by social interactions.

How this manifests depends on the person, but one universal thing is that overcontrol can take a toll on you. It can rob you of the ability to relax, the ability to connect, and the ability to manage life in general. If you feel that this is an issue for you, you may be interested in the RO-DBT page on the menu.

It’s All In The Family

Our families teach us how to be people. Thus, they mold and shape who we are, for better or worse. They are our first experience in how to attach, how to love, how to fight, and how to live with others. Exploring your family patterns can go a long way in understanding yourself and your particular relationship patterns. Processing these particular relationships can also assist in establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries and sometimes understanding and reconnecting severed relationships. The families we build through friendships and romantic relationships will often mirror our family of origin. This doesn’t mean you’re doomed to repeat faulty patterns. With some work, you can break the cycle.

Bridging the Gap

Our first experience in attaching to others is our family. Good, bad, or indifferent; every family has problems. It could be that you had no relationship model at all. Alternatively, maybe your caretakers modeled poor behaviors like abuse, neglect, unhealthy arguments, or not modeling love at all. Our family teaches us how to love. So when the source teaches faulty things, it can affect our relationships for the rest of our lives. People both in and out of therapy often don’t know how to healthily argue, show love, and navigate cooperation and compromise. How we attach can be critical to whether or not we repeat the same patterns or create new ones. Individual therapy can help you explore your models and practices to learn new and better ways to develop relationships that last or reconnect and fortify struggling ties.

Secrets, Secrets Are No Fun

We all have secrets. Some are darker than others. Whatever they are, they’re heavy. Individual therapy can give you a safe space to work through the complicated feelings that come with whatever secrets you’re holding. Often, having a “secret” means trauma. Trauma can have a devastating impact on who you are, how you manage life, and how your relationships form. Offloading and genuinely understanding these secrets can free you from the influence they continue to have on your life.

If your life isn’t taking the direction you want, know that you’re in control of changing your path. If you can’t find the way yourself, individual therapy can be a helpful way to find your answers to the life you want to build. When you’re ready, I am here to help.

 
Online EMDR Therapy
IWhen you’re trying to work through difficult things, it helps to know you have options. Traditional talk therapy is great, but what if you don’t feel that conventional talk therapy is for you? There are options, and EMDR is one of those options. EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing. It is one of the top forms of therapy for emotional resolution. It has been extensively researched and shows promise with several types of psychological distress.

What is EMDR?

We create memories differently when we are calm versus under stress. Sometimes, those memories can get stuck or leave pieces and parts in different parts of the brain. EMDR uses bilateral or alternating stimulation to reach each side of the brain and help the brain work through and “integrate” this information into one cohesive memory. The most common form of stimulation used is eye movements. However, we can also use sounds or taps.

How is EMDR different?

Trauma therapists love EMDR. Why? Because it doesn’t require conscious effort like traditional talk therapy. The way EMDR is often described is that you are a passenger on a train riding through your brain and noticing the scenery. For whatever reason, the stimulus will jump from neuron to neuron to follow the “path” that your brain has created with this information. This does not require effort on your part, except for answering the question, “what do you notice?” You are not required to actively process, answer questions, strive to make connections, or find words you may not have. Instead, it works with the brain’s natural healing process to allow it to heal itself.

Why EMDR?

Often, therapists will work with one part of the brain but not the other, so clients end up with resolved thoughts but still have painful feelings, or vice versa. It can be not easy when you finally understand the information but still can’t control your emotions. What we do know is that the body stores information as well. You cannot logic through biology. There is no fighting, fight, or flight to logic through until the process is over. It can be so tricky! EMDR works to allow the pieces and parts that your body has stored to be fully integrated into the information in the memory so that there are no super sensitive or triggering parts to the memory. It becomes a part of your story instead of an emotional bruise you can’t stand to approach.

EMDR is also really great with people who are avoidant and can’t stand to work to discuss thoughts and feelings actively. Similarly, those clients lack words or have an inability to address issues. Moreover, it is a more passive but still very powerful process for healing for those who lack emotional vocabulary.

I Want EMDR, but I Can’t Find a Local Provider.

We are the pioneers offering EMDR online even before it became essential during 2020! It is an excellent option for a couple of reasons. For example, some people have been injured and cannot drive to or from an office. Others cannot go to an office due to scheduling making it more challenging. Besides, some clients travel and struggle with predictable schedules or cannot find a local provider. Therefore, we were also offering EMDR online group! Using a particular computer program, we can do EMDR just as we were in the office.

If you feel EMDR may be an option for you, please reach out, and we can schedule you today!

 
Couples Therapy

While individual counseling is helpful, it’s challenging to fix relationship problems from only one side. However, if both parties are willing to attend counseling, success comes faster when the focus is relationship problems.

You want to bridge the gap and not feel the distance and separation you feel now. But, unfortunately, relationships take constant maintenance, and sometimes life can get the better of you. Even good stress is still stress!

           Perhaps you’ve finally decided to have a child, and now that you have, you’re struggling to adjust to your new                 roles. It could be that you’re merging families, and everyone is reeling from the stress of blending families. On                 the other hand, perhaps things are just stressful, and you find that you’re arguing more, or worse, not                                 communicating at all. Maybe your partner was unfaithful, or maybe your struggle I something less serious. 

           Whatever  happened, it’s possible to get to a better place.

Two Become One

When two people merge their lives, things can get chaotic. You are two individuals with different cultures, families of origin, lifestyles, preferences, and personalities- of course, merging into one life is going to be a struggle!

Everyone comes to the table with their baggage. We are all raised in different ways, and behaviors are modeled for us. In addition, our cultures play a factor in what is and are not acceptable behavior. Through our parents and families, we learn gender roles, appropriate responses, expectations, parenting, attachment to others, and more. Finding a mate and creating our versions of a family with two individuals who come from differing backgrounds can be complex with so much input, but it isn’t impossible.

Communication Struggles

In any relationship, it’s important to be heard. However, when that doesn’t happen, things can go south fast. If one or both partners cannot communicate needs, wants, and desires, things like scorekeeping, resentment, criticism, and contempt can develop. This spells disaster for a relationship. Learning just a few basic communication techniques can really help get you back on the same page.

Parenting Difficulties

Whether parenting as a couple or co-parenting as a separated family, raising a child is difficult. We all come from differing backgrounds that set expectations for behaviors. If both parents are not on the same page, life can be very difficult and confusing for the child. Confused children act out and cause

family stress, and nobody is happy! Communicating expectations rules appropriately, and discipline is critical in every family.

Time Management

We’ve mentioned above that several factors come into play in a successful relationship. One struggle that often goes unacknowledged is time. Time is a finite resource. With jobs, children, socialization, and personal interests, it can be challenging to find time for each other. Sadly, in many relationships, “couplehood” comes last. Therefore, this is a real problem because the couple is the foundation of your life! Learn to put yourselves first and find time for one another. This includes therapy: If you can‘t be in the same place at once, we have online options for this. Don’t let time be an obstacle.

Secrets and Trauma

Many times, when a relationship is struggling, one or both partners have not been entirely forthcoming. This is rarely due to sinister aims. More often, factors like guilt, shame, and fear of rejection create the inability to discuss happenings that have caused problems for the individual partner. Therapy can be a safe space to disclose, address, and work through these difficult conversations.

Sexual Problems

Sex is critical to any relationship. It fosters bonding, releases stress, and makes for a happier couple. Sexual problems are common in relationships that are struggling. If the problem isn’t physical, then it is possible that, as the difficulties in the relationship resolve, your sex life will improve.

Infidelity

It is a myth that infidelity has to kill your relationship. Many couples can and do recover after one or both cheats. This is not to say that straying from a relationship doesn’t cause a great deal of turmoil. Therapy can offer a space to communicate and work through complex feelings and move on from the injury. How you work it out and where you go from here is a personal decision up to each couple.

Should I Stay or Go?

When a relationship is struggling, this question often rears its ugly head. Making such a difficult decision can weigh heavily on anyone’s conscience. However, a little guidance can go a long way in sorting out personal feelings and determining which way to go.

Whether the struggle is parenting or co-parenting, separation, divorce, infidelity, communication struggles, or just plain not feeling connected, counseling can go a long way in coming together again.

If you’re engaged in more serious struggles like domestic violence or relationship problems in general, I have information on that in my specialties pages.

If you’re ready to connect again and have the relationship you really want, let’s set up an appointment and get started.

 
RODBT (Radically Open Dialectical Behavioral Therapy)

You were fun once. Or maybe not. You’re known for being on time or being early for every appointment. If there’s a schedule, you never deviate. On the other hand, you’re perfectionistic and struggle when things don’t go as planned. You have a hard time trying new things. It’s impossible to forgive yourself when you make a mistake. Maybe you’re comfortable this way, or perhaps those close to you have pointed out that this is a problem. Life should be more fun than this.

There is such a thing as too much self-control. Self-control is suitable to a point. However, after a certain level, it becomes problematic. Self-control is the term we use to describe our ability to control impulses, act on urges without thought, and deal with emotions in a way that favors long-term outcomes. In small doses, it’s a good thing. However, too much, and you’ll struggle with an inability to relax control when necessary. Social interactions can create perfectionism, inflexibility, overcautiousness, and exhaustion.

How do I know if I’m overcontrolled?

Overcontrolled people often struggle with loneliness, perfectionism, guilt and shame, and difficulty dealing with change. For someone like you, it’s important never to show vulnerability, make mistakes, or not win at something. In general, a person prone to overcontrol feels more anxious, is much more sensitive to criticism, struggles to respond to difficult things in life, and is more nervous and sensitive. While overcontrol helps alleviate anxiety in the short term, it actually creates more pressure in the long term!

 

What are Struggles Specific to Being Overcontrolled?

  • higher anxiety and emotionality

  • difficulty relaxing inhibition; difficulty exploring all life has to offer

  • loneliness and social difficulties

  • being overly committed to rules

  • struggling to take criticism or feedback

  • masking emotions or only showing socially acceptable emotions

  • related challenges like depression, anxiety, anorexia, or obsessive-compulsive behaviors

  • suffering in silence due to others now knowing they are struggling

How Does RO-DBT Help?

Personalities differ. This is partly biological and partly due to experience. According to the basic tenets of RO-DBT, experiences combined with basic temperamental differences can lead to overcontrolled behaviors, leading to struggles with social bonding. As humans, social bonding is critical for us. RO-DBT works to help you better express yourself emotionally inappropriate social context to create the social bonds that you are lacking. This then leads to better social experiences, reinforcing the idea that you are safe to express yourself without rejection and trust others. It teaches you a new set of skills to help you interact and bond with others and create a more prosperous life for yourself.

I’ve Heard of DBT but not RO-DBT. How are they different?

DBT was created to help individuals who are emotionally volatile and dysregulated. This is the opposite of whom RO-DBT is designed to help. RO-DBT assists in more emotion, not less.

Maybe you want to get back to who you once were, or perhaps you’ve always been this way and would like to change. Either way, RO-DBT can help you get there.

Radically Open Dialectical Behavior Therapy (RO-DBT) may be for you if you struggle with excessive self-control.

 
 
Parenting Skills

Parenting is one of the most thankless demanding jobs- or it sure can feel like it! Maybe you remember a time when it was more fun or more minor fires to put out. Today, many parents lack support either through extended family or with peers to relate to. And yet, it’s so important to share our struggles, celebrate accomplishments, get some good advice or some practical skills. Let’s face it, kids these days face unprecedented challenges, and the techniques that our parents use with us may not work, be very outdated, or even illegal. 

 

Our therapists have worked as peer parenting mentors, counseled in schools, led parenting groups, and mentored individual parents. Hundred of parents from different walks of life feel that these tools have helped them succeed in parenting and strengthen their relationship with their children. While not all devices will work for every person or family, you can find what your kids respond to and develop your parenting style by utilizing a variety.

The Root of Discipline is “to teach.”

Many people may mistakenly believe that discipline is the time to “show who the boss is.” Nonetheless, if we remember the word “disciple,” we may see the true meaning of the word. (Remember how Jesus gathered people, disciples around him?) Whether we are religious or not, when we discipline well, we “disciple.” That is, we fortify our relationships and draw our family around us to enhance our influence instead of tearing them down through fear or bullying. 

Take a moment, close your eyes, and ask yourself. What is most important to teach your children?

             "Your answer tells you about your style, values, and strengths as a parent. Start with your strength and passion, which is the core of what you offer.

Don’t Sabotage your Relationships: Grow Them!

We may mistakenly feel responsible for our children’s poor behavior or protect them from the consequences of their choices. Feeling over-responsible or not taking responsibility for our role can cloud our decisions and have us parent out of fear, anger, and frustration or give up in apathy. When we think calmly, we strategically use our values and choose a disciplined structure that supports our family. Therefore, we can communicate our values to your children in the most crucial moments while staying in control. By doing this, we demonstrate love and safety. 

When we grow relationships, we build our circle of influence, which forms a positive win-win loop that feeds itself. A stronger relationship equals more power plus more authority, more buy-in, and so on, you get the picture. By choosing authoritative and kind parenting, we model and teach self-control, leadership, enhance our kid’s internal motivation, trust in themselves, and the ability to handle stress. Most importantly, we teach through our actions, not empty words. Self-control leadership, internal motivation, trust in self, and ability to handle stress; are traits our children need to succeed and face complex choices.

The decision to have a child is life-affirming, yet it can bring so much stress and change. The years of active parenting can go by very quickly, and our ability to shape our relationship with our children. Nevertheless, It is an opportunity that is often unprecedented in later years. So go ahead and get some support and practical tools. We are here to help you all the steps of the way.

RODBT for Couples

HAVE YOU EVER CONSIDERED WORKING ON YOUR RELATIONSHIP IN A GROUP SETTING? YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE ON THE VERGE OF THE DIVORCE TO COME AND BENEFIT FROM COUPLES' THERAPY.

Are you someone who is cautious, avoids vulnerability, and does activities without a proper plan. Maybe you think ahead of time over everything but fail to enjoy the moment and struggle to truly connect with people. 

Do you work extra hard to connect with the partner and yet feel unappreciated. You like to follow rules and struggle to loosen up and be adventurous but still struggle to feel really connected to someone by your side. 

Would like to help to learn how to be more: Receptive and Open, Flexible, Socially Connected and improve your relationship? 

Connect with us! We are organizing a new RODBT skills class.

When you’re ready, our door is open, Email, Call, or schedule online.

 
Brainspotting

HAVE YOU EVER CONSIDERED WORKING ON YOUR RELATIONSHIP IN A GROUP SETTING? YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE ON THE VERGE OF THE DIVORCE TO COME AND BENEFIT FROM COUPLES' THERAPY.

Are you someone who is cautious, avoids vulnerability, and does activities without a proper plan. Maybe you think ahead of time over everything but fail to enjoy the moment and struggle to truly connect with people. 

Do you work extra hard to connect with the partner and yet feel unappreciated. You like to follow rules and struggle to loosen up and be adventurous but still struggle to feel really connected to someone by your side. 

Would like to help to learn how to be more: Receptive and Open, Flexible, Socially Connected and improve your relationship? 

Connect with us! We are organizing a new RODBT skills class.

When you’re ready, our door is open, Email, Call, or schedule online.

Internal Family System

HAVE YOU EVER CONSIDERED WORKING ON YOUR RELATIONSHIP IN A GROUP SETTING? YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE ON THE VERGE OF THE DIVORCE TO COME AND BENEFIT FROM COUPLES' THERAPY.

Are you someone who is cautious, avoids vulnerability, and does activities without a proper plan. Maybe you think ahead of time over everything but fail to enjoy the moment and struggle to truly connect with people. 

Do you work extra hard to connect with the partner and yet feel unappreciated. You like to follow rules and struggle to loosen up and be adventurous but still struggle to feel really connected to someone by your side. 

Would like to help to learn how to be more: Receptive and Open, Flexible, Socially Connected and improve your relationship? 

Connect with us! We are organizing a new RODBT skills class.

When you’re ready, our door is open, Email, Call, or schedule online.